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Question DetailsI have taken this pretty hard. This girl is like my little sister. She is 15 and I am 18. I look out for her, and I feel like I failed to protect her. Some background though is we live in a very small town, and this old man (47) who she did some chores for around his farm, took advantage of her. Now she was only 13 at the time and this guy was 47, very old and disgusting compared to her. So gross and uggh I am so p*ssed off that this man would do that to her. So anyway a year later (after the assault, she was too scared to tell so she kept doing the chores because her parents had set it up) SO her and I went there one day, she did her chores, and as soon as I met this guy I KNEW he was creepy. The place smelled like pot and there were emety vodka bottles everywhere. And he had a stripper pole in his barn! I told her we had to leave, as we were leaving she just broke down and told me everything that had happened. I felt so horrible. I encouraged her to tell the guidance counselor at school and she did.
SO at this point in time, she is in the process of being diagnosed with PTSD and there is a trial coming up which I may have to testify at. My biggest problem here is that I just am having a hard time that someone did this to my friend and I feel so horrible that i couldn't stop it. I am trying to stay strong for her and I feel like I have no reason to be upset, it didn't happen to me! But I am having a really hard time dealing!
Best AnswerFirst, I want to say that you did the such a good thing. I just can't imagine why someone wouldn't tell somebody.
Just keep in mind that there are always creeps out there. Now that you have dealt with this, you can be assured that you can cope with things like this easier in the future.
Other Answers1: It's totally understandable that you would feel bad, but what you did for her was more than anyone else did. You saw a problem and you got her help. You couldn't have stopped it sooner because you didn't know.
And I believe the others to be wrong. You saw the stripper pole, so you will probably be asked to testify about that.
2: it's happen all the time, you can't be there for her always. because you'll be at different place at the same time she been touch at a different place, so pretty much the only thing you can do, is be her best friend an be there for her problems.
3: Ok. You're having a hard time. That's normal. There's nothing you can do about that. I don't see how you can testify. You didn't witness any of the events that happened. Hopefully that guy will get his balls chopped off for what he did!
4: Why are you such a jerk, Borg? She feels horrible because she couldn't help her friend. Just leave this site and never come back. You don't deserve to answer.
5: that is a perfectly normal response. you were worried for your friend. just support your friend and tell her that we support her too.
